From men that have anal sex with their wives, to guys that try it early on in the dating session, these stories capture the essence of the sex act. But every so often, you just wanna go play in the grass. With anal, I can go balls-deep without having to worry about hurting her. Some women like it and a lot of men are all about giving pleasure. Also, I just love the way a woman looks with something penetrating her lovely asshole.
More young women than ever—45 percent—are trying anal, according to the latest research from the Kinsey Institute. If you're considering having anal sex for the first time, you're probably wondering how to prepare, relax, and enjoy the intimate moment with your partner. We called in the experts: Rachel Needle , Psy. The last thing you want to be before attempting anal is tense. If this is your first time trying anal sex, spend some time relaxing—take a hot bath, ask your partner to give you a sensual massage, heck, you can even meditate. You can also focus on specifically relaxing your anal muscles.
Which is a good thing! Women who've been there and done that say it's a welcome addition to their sexual repertoire. But just like you must walk before you can run, you must have some sort of anal foreplay before you go for the full monty of anal sex. Or, you know, you can do butt play and leave it at that forever, because it's your booty and you make the rules.
Flicking through anthropological texts yields a pathetic number of references to heterosexual anal sex. Is this because researchers assume that it's only for homosexual guys? Those researchers are missing a trick. Our resident sex anthropologist Florence Walker investigates.